Booklist

(Organized by category and then publishing date)

Parenting in general:

The Balanced Mom: Raising Your Children Without Losing Yourself
Simpson, Bria (2006). New Harbinger
In this book, a life coach and mother of three shows busy moms how to meet the challenges of motherhood without over-parenting and encourage independence in their children, while still making time to find balance and fulfillment.

Parenting From the Inside Out
Siegel, Daniel & Hartzell, Mary. (2004). Penguin Group
Drawing upon stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, the authors explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain.

Parent as Mystic, Mystic as Parent
Spangler, David, (2000). Penguin Group
The author shares his stories from the trenches, blessings from the day-in and day-out of child-rearing, and encourages us, with grace, wit, and common sense, toward the kind of parenting that brings to the world creative, honest, enlightened, and independent children.

Change Your Child’s Behavior by Changing Yours
Chernofsky, Barbara, & Gage, Diane (1996). Crown Publishing Group
This book tackles thirteen particularly difficult situations that prompt most tug-of-wills, including conflicts involving bedtime, dressing, eating, going places, shopping, and sibling rivalry.

Infants, Toddlers, and Early Childhood:

Beyond Time Out: From Chaos to Calm
Grosshans, Beth, (2008). Sterling Publishing
Dr. Grosshans reveals why she believes nearly a half-century of parenting advice—with its emphasis on talking, exalting children’s self-esteem, and time-outs—is largely to blame for today’s lack of discipline. She persuasively explains why children can only grow up healthy and strong when firmly led by their parents’ experience and better judgment, and provides a clear, easy, five-step program to follow.

Sleeping Through the Night: How Infants, Toddlers and their Parents Get a Good Night’s Sleep
Mindell, Jodi A. (2005). Harper Collins
Drawing on her ten years of experience in the assessment and treatment of common sleep problems in children, Dr. Jodi A. Mindell provides tips and techniques, the answers to commonly asked questions, and case studies and quotes from parents who have successfully solved their children’s sleep problems, offering practical tips on bedtime, rather than middle-of-the-night-sleep training.

Super Baby Food: Absolutely Everything You Should Know About Feeding Your Baby and Toddler From Starting Foods to Age Three Years
Yaron, Ruth (1998). Roberts Publishing
This is the most complete baby food reference book on the market today.

Your Baby and Child: From Birth to Age Five
Leach, Penelope & Matthews, Jenny (1997). Knopf
Features of this classic book include sections of parents’ most-asked questions and Dr. Leach’s answers, as well as plenty of safety information.

Positive Discipline for Preschoolers
Nelsen, Jane, Erwin, Cheryl & Duffy, Roslyn (1995). Prima Publishing & Communications
Caring for young children is one of the most challenging tasks an adult will ever face. No matter how much you love your child, there will be moments filled with frustration, anger, and even desperation. There will also be questions: Why does my four-year-old deliberately lie to me? Why won’t my three-year-old listen to me? Should I ever spank my preschooler when she is disobedient? Over the years, millions of parents have come to trust the Positive Discipline series and its commonsense approach to child rearing.

Louise Bates Ames and Frances L. Ilg Series
Random House, 1980’s and 90’s
This is a successful classic series, filled with valuable insights and advice, that parents have found very helpful in understanding the basic issues at each stage of development.

Your One Year Old: Fun-Loving and Fussy

Your Two Year Old: Terrible or Tender

Your Three Year Old: Friend or Enemy

Your Four Year Old: Wild and Wonderful

Your Five-Year Old: Sunny and Serene

Your Six Year Old: Loving and Defiant

Your Seven Year Old: Life in Minor Key

Your Eight Year Old: Lively and Outgoing

Your Nine Year Old

Your Ten to Fourteen Year Old

Montessori Education:

Montessori Madness! A Parent to Parent Argument for Montessori Education
Eissler, Trevor (2009), Sevenoff
This book, written by a Montessori parent, a story teller with a sense of humor, follows one family with young children on their journey of determination, discovery, and delight. Learn the who, what, when, where, why, and how of Montessori education.

Montessori: The Science Behind the Genius
Lillard, A (2007). Oxford University Press USA
This book, shows that science has finally caught up with Maria Montessori. Lillard presents the research concerning eight insights that are foundations of Montessori education, describing how each of these insights is applied in the Montessori classroom.

How To Raise An Amazing Child the Montessori Way
Seldin, Tim (2006). DK Publishing
This book is beautifully illustrated with full-color photographs of a diverse group of children ranging in age from newborn to six years. Chapters address such topics as discovery through the senses, self-reliance, discipline, and natural history, all from the perspective of the Montessori approach used at home.

Montessori Today
Lillard, Paula Polk (1996). Knopf
Paula Lillard, director of a Montessori school ranging in age from 18 months to fifteen years, provides a clear and cogent introduction to the Montessori program for the elementary and later years. In detailed accounts, she shows how children acquire the skills to answer their own questions, learn to manage freedom with responsibility, and maintain a high level of intellectual stimulation by using the Montessori method. This is an essential handbook for parents and teachers who have chosen a Montessori school for their older child.

Montessori In Contemporary American Culture
Loeffler, Margaret Howard (1992). Heinemann
Loeffler provides the reader with up-to date information on how Montessori’s ideas and methods are currently employed in American culture, noting ways these ideas have been adapted and changed during the Americanization process and examining the relationship between Montessori’s core concepts and new knowledge and research in the areas of child development and education.

The Montessori Controversy
Cattin-McNicols, John (1991). Cengage Learning
This excellent book presents a balanced review of the strengths and weaknesses of the Montessori method. Detailed information is given on the Montessori educational philosophy, terms, and concepts. This history of Montessori education in the United States is discussed, along with the reasons for the split between Maria Montessori and ‘traditional’ early childhood education proponents.

The Discovery of the Child
Montessori, Maria (1986). Random House
Maria Montessori went beyond the conventions of the day to seek a new way of knowing and loving a child. In this book, she describes the nature of the child and her method of working more fully with the child’s urge to learn.

The Secret of Childhood
Montessori, Maria (1982). Random House
Maria Montessori describes the child with warmth and the exactness of a scientist. She also discusses the array of materials and techniques needed to release his or her learning potential.

Elementary and Middle School:

Nurture the Nature: Understanding and Supporting your Child’s Unique Core Personality
Gurian, Michael (2009). Jossey-Bass
Family therapist Gurian approaches his nature-based theme from a slightly different angle in his latest work, urging parents to buck “social trends parenting” and make decisions based on the core personality of their individual child. A researcher of brain science and gender differences, Gurian believes that much of a child’s behavior is inborn from the start. But he sees a disturbing trend in the increasing willingness of parents to disregard their own instincts, letting media and society-driven fads dictate the way they raise their children.

The Shelter of Each Other
Pipher, Mary (2008). Riverhead Trade
Families, the bedrock of our society and culture, are today under assault from every side. Parents, struggling under their own pressures and unmet needs, don’t know how to protect their children from crime, poverty, abuse, and media violence. In The Shelter of Each Other, the author of Reviving Ophelia wisely and compassionately challenges readers to find the courage to nurture and revivify the families they cherish

Last Child in The Woods: Saving Our Children From Nature-Deficit Disorder
Louv, Richard (2008). Algonquin Books
In this influential work about the staggering divide between children and the outdoors, the author, a child advocacy expert, directly links the lack of nature in the lives of today’s wired generation—he calls it nature-deficit—to some of the most disturbing childhood trends, such as the rises in obesity, attention disorders, and depression.

Positive Discipline A-Z: 1001 Solutions to Everyday Parenting Problems
Nelson, Jane (2007). Three Rivers Press
As a parent, you face one of the most challenging—and rewarding—roles of your life. No matter how much you love your child, there will still be moments filled with anger, frustration, and, at times, desperation. What do you do? Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust the Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commonsense approach to child rearing.

Yardsticks
Wood, Chip (2007). Northeast Foundation for Children
An outstanding guide for anyone working or living with children ages 4-14. Written for teachers and parents, the author offers clear and concise descriptions of children’s development. A comprehensive, “user-friendly” reference that helps translate knowledge of child development into schooling that helps all children succeed.

Awakening Children’s Minds: How Parents and Teachers Can Make a Difference
Berk, Laura (2004). Oxford University Press
The author cuts through the confusion of competing theories, offering a new way of thinking about the roles of parents and teachers and how they can make a difference in children’s lives and raise caring, thoughtful, intelligent children.

Magic 1,2,3 for Children 2-12
Phelan, Thomas (2004). Parentmagic, Inc.
Addressing the task of disciplining children ages 2 through 12 without arguing, yelling, or spanking, this program offers easy-to-follow steps to immediately manage troublesome behavior with reason, patience, and compassion while strengthening the parent–child relationship. Parents and teachers learn how to encourage and respect children’s growing independence with 10 strategies for building self-esteem.

The Wonder of Girls / The Wonder of Boys
Gurian, Michael (2003). Atria / (2006). Tarcher
Yes, boys and girls are different, says family therapist Gurian, urging that society learn how to deal creatively with gender-specific needs. Biology matters. Hormones and brain differences ultimately define girls’ and boys’ journeys through childhood and adolescence. Writing in a calm, compassionate voice, Gurian delivers a compelling call to action for raising both boys and girls.

The Unwritten Rules of Friendship: Simple Strategies to Help your Child Make Friends
Madorsky Elman, Natalie & Kennedy-Moore, Eileen (2003). Little, Brown and Company
This practical and compassionate handbook helps parents sharpen any child’s social skills by identifying the “unwritten rules” that govern all relationships.

Our Last Best Shot: Guiding our Children through Early Adolescence
Stepp, Laura Sessions (2001). Berkeley Publishing Group
Our Last Best Shot presents the personal stories of twelve girls and boys from across America. Their stories, and Laura Sessions Stepp’s extensive research, provide real insight for parents trying to raise well-adjusted children in this difficult age. Filled with wisdom and common sense, based on cutting-edge research, and featuring an invaluable resource list, this is a book that parents and educators cannot afford to be without.

Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World: Seven Building Blocks for Developing Capable Young People
Glenn, Stephen (2000). Three Rivers Press
In this brilliant and passionate work, two of our nation’s most respected educators offer an original explanation of why so many young people don’t feel capable. Once they explore the nature of the problem, Glenn and Nelsen proceed to offer a blueprint designed to help children.

Hair in Funny Places: A Book About Puberty
Cole, Babette (2000). Hyperion Books for Children
Brandishing her outrageously sly sense of humor, Cole tweaks the topic of puberty in all of its glory, with predictably boisterous results. Her madcap style leaves no room for embarrassment; it could pave the way for more informative discussions between children and adults.

Too Old for This, Too Young for That: Your Survival Guide for the Middle-School Years
Mosatche, Harriet & Unger, Karen (2000). Free Spirit Press
This comprehensive guide offers preteens seven chapters filled with information and advice to help ease the transition from childhood to adolescence. A “survival tip” begins each chapter. The first tip, “Get used to your changing body,” presents the greatest challenge for middle-school students. The authors handle this and other sensitive subjects very well, discussing the body changes of boys and girls using appropriate terms and briefly describing events that occur during puberty,

Raising a Thinking Preteen: The I Can Problem Solve Program for 8- to 12-year-olds
Shure, Myrna, (2000). Henry Holt
The author, a developmental psychologist and professor, has developed a successful program especially for eight-to twelve-year-olds as they approach the unique challenges of adolescence. The preteen years are often the last opportunity for parents to teach their children how to think for themselves.

The Secret of Parenting: How to Be in Charge of Today’s Kids, From Toddlers To Preteens, Without Threats or Punishment
Wolf, Anthony E. (2000). Farrar, Straus, and Giroux
Using numerous examples of effective and ineffective parent-child interactions, the author offers practical advice on a wide range of basic issues, from tantrums and back talk, to getting kids off to school in the morning and eliminating sibling fights.

 Humorous and easy to use, The Secret of Parenting is guaranteed to dramatically increase the joy parents get from raising their children.

Chores Without Wars
Lott, Lynn & Intner, Riki (1998). Prima Publishing & Communications
With wisdom and humor, this practical, step-by-step guide gives you the techniques you need to enlist the support and cooperation of your entire family to make life easier for all.

Positive Discipline for Teenagers: Empowering Your Teens and Yourself Though Kind and Firm Parenting
Nelson, Jane & Lott, Lynn. (1994). Prima Publishing & Communications
Adolescence is often a time of great stress and turmoil—not only for children going through it, but for you, their parents as well. During the teen years, children aggressively begin to explore a new sense of freedom, which often leads to feelings of resentment and powerlessness for parents who increasingly are excluded from their children’s lives. This book shows you how to break the destructive cycle of guilt and blame and work toward greater understanding and communication with your adolescents.

Positive Discipline
Nelson, Jane. (1987). Ballantine
For over twenty-five years, Positive Discipline has been the gold standard reference for grown-ups working with children. Now Jane Nelsen, distinguished psychologist, educator, and mother of seven, has written a revised and expanded edition. The key to positive discipline is not punishment, she tells us, but mutual respect. Nelsen coaches parents and teachers to be both firm and kind, so that any child–from a three-year-old toddler to a rebellious teenager–can learn creative cooperation and self-discipline with no loss of dignity

Grieving Resources for Children:

Lifetimes: The Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children
Ingpen, Robert and Mellonie, Bryan. (1983). Bantam
When the death of a relative, a friend, or a pet happens or is about to happen . . . how can we help a child to understand? Lifetimes is a moving book for children of all ages, even parents too. It lets us explain life and death in a sensitive, caring, beautiful way. Lifetimes tells us about beginnings. And about endings. And about living in between. With large, wonderful illustrations, it tells about plants. About animals. About people. It tells that dying is as much a part of living as being born. It helps us to remember. It helps us to understand. It explains—beautifully—that all living things have their own special Lifetimes.

Remembering Crystal
Loth, Sebastian. (2010). NorthSouth
Crystal had lived in the garden for many years. She was growing old. Zelda was just starting out in life. They were best friends. They read books together. They took trips together. And they talked about everything. But one day Crystal was not in the garden. She had died. In this gentle story, children learn, with Zelda, that true friendship is a gift that doesn’t die.

I Wish I Could Hold Your Hand
Palmer, Pat. (1994). Impact Publishers
A best friend has moved away, Dad no longer lives with the family, or a favorite pet has died. This warm, comforting book gently helps grieving children identify their feelings and learn to accept and deal with them. Wonderful heart-warming illustrations and simple, direct writing help children discover that it is normal and natural to feel the pain of loss.

When Dinosaurs Die
Krasny Brown, Laurie. (1998). Little, Brown Books for Young Readers
Unlike many books on death for little ones, this one doesn’t tell a story. Instead, it addresses children’s fears and curiosity head-on, and in a largely secular fashion, by answering some very basic questions: “Why does someone die?” “What does dead mean?” “What comes after death?” Other questions deal with emotions, and there’s a section about death customs (the weakest part of the book). The forthright approach makes the subject seem less mysterious and provides kids with plenty to think about and discuss with their parents. It’s the brightly colored artwork, however, that will really enable children to relax with the concept. The pictures are filled with homey clutter and familiar detail, and the activities of the appealingly quirky characters (who resemble dinosaurs in only the broadest way) add a strong, comforting sense of what can only be called normalcy.

I Miss You:A First Look at Death
Thomas, Pat. (2001). Barron’s Educational Series
When a close friend or family member dies, it can be difficult for children to express their feelings. This book helps boys and girls understand that death is a natural complement to life, and that grief and a sense of loss are normal feelings for them to have following a loved one’s death. Titles in this sensitively presented series explore the dynamics of various relationships experienced by children of preschool through early school age. Kids are encouraged to understand personal feelings and social problems as a first step in dealing with them. Written by psychotherapist and counselor Pat Thomas, these books promote positive interaction among children, parents, and teachers. The story lines are simple and direct–easily accessible to younger children. There are full-color illustrations on every page.

The Next Place
Hanson, Warren. (1997). Waldman House Pr
An inspirational journey of light and hope to a place where earthly hurts are left behind.

Tear Soup
Schwiebert, Pat. (2005). Grief Watch
This book will validate your grief experience, and you can share it with your children. You can leave it on the coffee table so others will pick it up, read it, and then better appreciate your grieving time. Grand’s Cooking Tips section at the back of the book is rich with wisdom and concrete recommendations. Better than a casserole! Affirms the bereaved. Educates the un-bereaved. A building-block for children….. WINNER! of the 2001 Theologos Book Award, presented by the Association of Theological Booksellers.